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What should I do after I fail in front of other people?
What should I do after I fail in front of other people?
Separate the fact of the miss from the story that you are now a public embarrassment. Repair what can be repaired today. Let the audience be smaller than your recap.
What may actually be happening
Shame wants secrecy and a grand comeback. The useful move is usually dull: correct the error, tell the person who needs the correction, and do the next rep where fewer people are watching.
What you can do
Write what happened in three factual lines. Send the correction if one is owed. Schedule the next attempt before you narrate the identity crisis. Ask one witness what they actually saw. It is often smaller than your edit.
What not to do
Do not disappear from the work to punish the room. Do not announce a total reinvention tonight. Do not fish for reassurance and then argue with it.
Try this today
Do one visible, ordinary piece of the same work. Failure becomes a scar when it is the last time you were seen trying.